Mother’s “DAY”?

9 May

Make every day "Mother's Day"

Mother’s Day can be a very touchy subject for some. I think that the greeting card, floral and jewelry industries has us feeling that we need something from a store in order to feel appreciated and loved and when we don’t get those items we feel unloved and unappreciated. Some feel that Mother’s Day just isn’t right if you don’t get your “mommy time”, as we all need and deserve on the regular basis not just one day. However, just like any other day it doesn’t necessarily work out that way just because it’s Mother’s Day. I did some reflection and this year I decided not to convince myself that because this day has been chosen to observe all that we as mother’s do, I can not expect my children to be perfectly well-behaved, traffic to part for me and everyone to skip down the street with laughter while I  listen to the birds chirp. Nice try right? Instead I decided to look at Mother’s “Day” from my reality glasses and enjoy my day for what it is…a day where people decide to take the time and “observe” and show appreciation for the mother’s in their lives and all they do year round.

Days before the observance of Mother’s Day my six-year-old son kept saying “mom I need to get my money out my bank so I can get you some roses.” I smiled and told him to save his money and he could draw me some roses. He was not happy with that idea at all. “No mom I need to buy you some roses from the store.” They even got to my six-year-old!  The friday before the observance he brought home a gift he made in school and was so excited to give it to me but I told him I would wait until the day of. All weekend my children were so excited for Mother’s day and were thinking of all kinds of things they could do and buy for me.

When the day finally came they came in my room and said Happy Mother’s Day, my son gave me my gift he made and they sang me a mother’s day song. My son then said “we have to go cook mommy breakfast” and I had to stop them in their tracks. Since they couldn’t cook breakfast, and my daughter was upset she didn’t have a gift to give me, they sat on the floor and made me, my mom, our aunt and whoever else came to mind a card. At that moment I wanted to do something  for them because I appreciated how much they wanted to show their appreciation.  This year I really had a chance to be okay with not getting  flowers, jewelry or a store-bought card and not being able to spend the day at a spa or in the house having “mommy time” but not having those items or opportunities doesn’t mean I’m less loved or appreciated than those who did. The few hours I spent away from my children I had a great lunch with my mom and sister and afterward I went to get a manicure.

Overall, I feel good about how my day was spent because franklyimamom, and as on the other 364 “Mother’s Day” days, I spent most of my day being one.

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3 Responses to “Mother’s “DAY”?”

  1. *Jazmine* May 14, 2011 at 3:50 am #

    Well I just happened to believe that this year my husband would do something special for me. I mean, I am ONLY his wife of almost 5 years who is ONLY pregnant with our fourth child!! I mean, clearly my expectations were too high because it just happened to be another day where I felt completely underappreciated. I was not disappointed in my children by any means. They are kids….they have no knowledge of what mother’s day even is. However, for my husband who should know me better than anyone else, he should know that generic roses are not my style. So if any men happen to read this….as a woman, as a mom, as a lover, as a life partner: consider her specifically. Women DO NOT like generic….we want a present (and NO a present doesn’t necessarily have to be purchased) that is specific and intentional. Put some thought into it…don’t be simple. I would have adored a special made craft by my daughters (with the help of daddy) with their handprints, footprints, pictures, etc. Soooo…I’m done for now…venting for the night is out 🙂 Thanks for listening

  2. Marva A May 19, 2011 at 3:17 am #

    Yeah had to check myself like, the only people who have to appreciate me…is my to kids, and they are kids! They can’t send me to the spa…lol! So I was happy with my cards my son bought and my daughter made. And she just knew she was take me out to dinner with my money! I just thought that was funny

  3. Andrea May 19, 2011 at 8:42 pm #

    With hectic schedules that mom’s lead. I prefer to spend my Mother’s Day alone. As my kids get older I finally get a little free time. However, because it’s our day. It’s the one day an explanation is not needed for a baby sitter. However, I don’t mind spending the time with my kids. This Mother’s Day I was not kidless. I decided to have a few friends over who are also Mother’s and it was a time to relax and let the kids play. No matter what I cherish my kids and whatever happens on that particular day just happens rather its planned or unplanned. As we know as moms no matter how much planning you do, it doesn’t always work in yur favor. I prefer REST on any given day:-)

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